Social This or That Questions
Friends, plans, and hanging out
About these social questions
How people prefer to spend time with other people: big group or small, planned or spontaneous, hosting or attending, arriving early or slipping out first. Introverts and extroverts split cleanly on nearly every pair here, which makes it a fast and painless way for a new group to learn how everyone likes to socialise.
Best for: New friend groups, flat-warmings, club sign-ups, and the start of a social committee meeting.
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All 25 Social Questions
Leader or Follower?
Talk it out or Need space?
Many friends or Few close friends?
Give advice or Receive advice?
Apologize first or Wait for apology?
Direct or Subtle?
Optimist or Realist?
Listener or Talker?
Express emotions or Keep to myself?
Make plans or Go with flow?
Arrive first or Arrive last?
Leave early without saying goodbye or Stay until the very end?
Host at yours or Go to theirs?
Three close friends or Thirty acquaintances?
Group chat or One-to-one messages?
Plans made a month ahead or Plans made an hour ahead?
Be the organiser or Be the one who always turns up?
Big party where you know nobody or Small dinner where you know everyone?
Say yes and regret it or Say no and wonder?
Talk to one person all night or Talk to everyone briefly?
Reply immediately or Reply in four days?
Birthday with a crowd or Birthday with one person?
Video call or Long walk?
Be introduced or Introduce yourself?
Cancel and stay in or Force yourself out and enjoy it?
How to Play This or That
This or That is a two-option choice game with no scoring and no losing. One player reads a pair, everyone answers immediately, and the game moves on. It is the fastest way to get a silent room talking because there is nothing to think about and no wrong answer.
The rules
- Read a pair out loud: option A or option B.
- Everyone answers within about two seconds — instinct only, no explaining.
- Ask "why?" on any pair that splits the room. That is where the conversation starts.
- Move to the next pair immediately. Pace is what makes this game work.
Ways to change it up
- Split the room. Option A stands to the left, option B to the right. Works with any group size and burns off energy.
- Guess the answer. One player predicts what another will choose before they answer. A point per correct guess.
- Rapid fire. Ten pairs in a row against a timer. Anyone who hesitates or explains is out.
Frequently Asked Questions
How many questions are on this page?
25 pairs, all shown in full on this page.
How long does a game take?
About two seconds per pair, so a full round of this list takes only a few minutes. That makes it the right game for a warm-up slot or a gap between activities rather than a whole evening.
How many players do you need?
Two is enough and there is no upper limit. For large groups, have option A stand on one side of the room and option B on the other — everyone answers at once and you can see the split instantly.
Is this list free to use?
Yes. Every prompt on this page is free to read, play from, print, or read aloud at an event. There is no account, no paywall and no download required — the full list is on this page.
How are these prompts checked?
Every prompt is reviewed by a person before it is published, and each one is tagged with the audiences it is suitable for. Anything that does not fit its rating gets corrected. You can report a prompt from the link at the bottom of any card.